Last week we talked about how the language we use among ourselves and with our care providers can be both good and bad. How some language is inclusive of all the facts and some is more fragmented and resembles a synopsis. This week we are going to talk about the language we use for ourselves. Mind or language over matter.
I have now attended 2 births that used the Hypnobabies home study course and both of these births the laboring moms presented very peaceful external personas. What I mean by that is they used language to change how they thought about each contraction and focused on the positive things the contractions were doing rather than just the pain that came with each wave. Both of these births were beautiful to witness, and see to these moms’ strength and determination to tell themselves the pain was a good thing.
This is just an example and a system someone has created to help with this particular event in life. However we need to be doing this in our everyday lives. When we think positively, more often positive things happen. When we tell ourselves we love who we are, what we look like, the more our confidence goes up, and we are more likely to truly believe what we are telling ourselves. If you tell yourself you are ugly everyday, that’s likely what you will believe deep down. Try to switch one thing each day to help make a positive change in the way you think about something. Anything.
This is where vision boards come in. I know it sounds silly, but when you have thought about your goals so thoroughly, then you put up a visual reminder of what you want, that you see everyday, it becomes hard to ignore the things you need to do to achieve those dreams. I have started my own vision board, and it is becoming something that is very much a work in progress. I have started with just words that mean soemething to me, or things I want to achieve, and I’m adding pictures as I find the right ones, but it’s a start.
I have seen first hand how words can change something that is often perceived as very difficult and painful, into something peaceful and rewarding, because they prepared, and told themselves they could do it. Then they did. Being a doula, I am constantly learning from my clients, and this is one lesson I an happy to have learned. Thank you to the (so far) two families that used this technique, and showing me a real life example of positive thinking in action.
Till next week!